Novice vs. Seasoned

We were all beginners once. Of course there are those lucky few who got to be in the S/m community when it was still called S&M…

Most of the material I see is written for the novice. And that is important. So is the fact that seasoned players need guidance.

Honesty is one of the most important parts of our community. When you are new and attracted to an olde tymer… you absolutely must be honest about the fact that this is your beginning. This honesty will make for a better scene. You can create a disaster by not “telling”.

Also, just because you are attracted to someone does not mean you are a good match. It is stupid to play with someone who is heavily into some aspect of S/m and you are into something completely different.
Those who have been around a while must be careful about falling into a routine. The advantage to a routine is you can do it backwards and forwards; the disadvantage is you can lose some of your sharpness. That, I believe, is when mistakes can happen.